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It's Ok Not To Know

I hope as you read the title you were able to breathe for a moment because, it really is ok not to know.

Transitions of life usually occur when we move to a different location, start a new job or start a new relationship.

These transitions are expected because you put them into motion. You’re aware of the starting point and the end result. You’re able to handle the emotions that come with them and generally speaking it doesn’t take too much time to adjust. 

There are other transitions, however, that take us by surprise. For example, the sudden death of a loved one, an accident or more recently the Coronavirus Pandemic. We go from a state of normalcy to disruptive living and it becomes more difficult to navigate as there is insufficient time to prepare as would have been the case for other circumstances. 

(For more on my thoughts regarding COVID-19, here’s the link to the last blogpost). 

Transition usually speaks to a process where things change from one state to another. 

I think what is unique about this period of transition is that we don’t really know what to expect on the other side and we are not in control. Being in involuntary lockdown, losing a source of income and limiting social activities wasn’t in the plan for 2020, at least not for me. That’s possibly why this period is filled with uncertainty and why anxiety and depression are a high risk factor. 

In essence, when we don’t know something it may cause unease.

I want to affirm within you that it’s ok not to know. By not knowing, we discover something new. A new way of living, a new opportunity or even a new side of our personality. I want to leave you with this thought

Be comfortable with becoming uncomfortable 

Usually we talk about this in regards to physical discipline at the gym. Allowing our bodies to adjust to new workouts because of the rewards we anticipate. 

I want to challenge you to see it otherwise, allow yourself to stretch beyond your comfort zone and let your mind expand beyond what you’re presently seeing. By stretching, you enlarge your field of vision and thereby the opportunities that may now be in your reach. 

I understand the difficulties with the present information coming our way, but I want to challenge us all to come out of this better than we went in. 

Feel free to get in touch with me, I would love to know how you are getting through this!

With love,



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